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People talk about getting to know each other better, but without some simple guided questions, our conversations can end up superficial or cyclical, without the depth and sincerity we yearn for.

Here are some conversation starters that can be explored as a couple. Approach them with lightness and curiosity; there are no right answers. But if you can create a safe space where each can be explored honestly then there’s a good chance you’ll learn a lot about each other.

Remember to have fun! Maybe go to a favourite cafe, or cook a nice dinner at home, or a walk on the beach. Some of the questions can reveal a lot about a person, so make sure the timing is right.

The 12 Questions

#1 How much do you love yourself?

#2 What do you like that I do when we’re making love?

#3 What are your core values in life?

#4 What makes you feel loved?

#5 Have you had any life-changing experiences?

#6 When was the last time you cried?

#7 What reminds you of me?

#8 How can I be a better partner to you?

#9 What is your favourite memory of us?

#10 In what ways have I changed since we first met?

#11 What turns you on most?

#12 Which of your parents are you most alike?